Hellena Post - Creatrix

I've tried on so many uniforms and badges that now I'm just me - mother of 8 children and all that entails, flowmad, and human animal parent. Writer of this living book of a blog, philosopher, and creatrix of hand dyed and spun crocheted wearable art. I gave up polite conversation years ago, and now I dive into the big one's.....birth, sex, great wellness, life, passion, death and rebirth.


Sunday, February 12, 2012

Love story



13 years ago Currawong and I began our journey together.  We’d seen each other around before that, and casually wondered about each other from a safe distance, but 13 years ago is when I was back visiting the Blue Mountains -  after having emigrated to South Australia a year earlier in search of change and adventure – and we clapped eyes on each other for the first time…….

And it was a serious event.  The full stereotypical catching of eyes from across a crowded pub, and neither of us could look away.  I’ve never, by the way, done such a thing with anyone else……..a moment of recognition, and spark, and melting into deep blue oceans, and time…..just…..stopped.  Only with my bird man have I felt like there was a body sized magnet within me that dragged me towards him whether I wanted to or not. 

It was the beginning of a long and winding path towards each other, through trust, and hurts, and pain, and fear, and all the other feelings a human often feels when taking up the challenge of merging into another human.  Into and around and under and behind and through.  After this initial meeting it took us over a year to actually start living together, and about 5 years before we really started to see each other for who we truly were. 

But after that first meeting, I went back to the Adelaide Hills and decided I needed to write what had happened, and remember it.  Because truth be known, I’ve been a bit of a wild thang in my youth, and decided the best way to get over the sexual repression of my fundamentalist upbringing was to root my way out of it.  So I did with massively happy abandon for quite a large percentage of my 20’s, which resulted in me realising quite clearly that there is a dearth of women role models in our culture apart from the Madonna or the Whore.  

Towards the end of my sexual exploration of the world, I’d reclaimed the title of whore in the old matrifocal sense of the world, and had proclaimed myself a ‘Holy Whore’.  And with this came a certain expectation of stereotype from the people around me.  I was fun, but not the sort of girl who got brought home to meet the parents.  Never taken seriously as I was ‘too easy’.  Or strong, whichever definition you prefer.  Anyway.  Currawong was the first man I’d ever come across who treated me with complete and total respect, and without ever alluding in a sideways manner to my sexual past.  And I wanted to remember it.   

So I started to write.

I was living in a blue slate mansion surrounded by cliffs with my mother and daughter, and studying Behavioural Science at Flinders University, but somehow I sank into a complete parallel reality, and for 3 months I disappeared into my room, and stayed up till 4 every morning writing, and slept in till 2 in the afternoon.  And went out on mad dashes into the city to have a few drinks and remember I was part of a bigger world.  And received visitors at the strangest times.  And through a kaleidoscope of other men, experienced a complete trip as I was writing, where I didn’t know if I was writing the book or the book was writing me.  Misty otherworldly snippets and people and stories coursed through my body, and I felt like I was channelling a whole other reality, and what came out in the early grey light of dawn, through my fingers tapping on my computer………was quite amazing.  I’d read it and think ‘who wrote that?!’ and get just as surprised at the outcomes, as I would if I was reading someone else’s book.  It went from being an account of our meeting, to becoming an autobiography, self help manual, science fiction fantasy, and visualisation of what I wanted to manifest.  And after a few chapters, these ancestors turned up……….

And when it was written, I bundled it up, with a bunch of crystals and velvet and candles and sacred objects and clothes and a tent and jumped in my little Holden Gemini of 1984…….and drove off into the sunset of the Australian desert in the peak of summer, playing and driving through temperatures  of over 50 degrees, and decided I was going to face all my fears, and run into the arms of my Saturn Return, burning my book at the beginning to release it all to the universe, let it go, and call in my future. 

Which is a whole other story.

But on the way home, I stopped in at the Blue Mountains again, after not having seen him after our movie stare and first meeting for a year, and just as I was about to leave and drive back to the Adelaide Hills, he walked into the pub I was sitting in, and where we’d first met, and our eyes caught each other again.

I’d written a book about him, and he’d written a song about me, and everything that I’d written about in my book had happened.  And when eventually we got together and continued our journey leading us to where we are now, we started off by completing all the other things I wrote about in the book, and fulfilling the manifest destiny that was written on the wall the moment we met. 

Now that book has been largely buried for the last 12 years, and I think it’s time it came out.  Just after I wrote it, I showed it to lots of people, and read it to folk all the way through my desert journey, and I had incredible reactions to it.  One amazing man, who was a very hard man with a very soft centre, and who I met in Alice Springs had tears in his eyes after I read him the second chapter about Balthazar. He couldn’t believe that I was a woman, and I’d written so clearly what happened in his head.  How did I know how to write like a man?  Some people said it was one of the best books they’d read.  And only last year, a woman I hadn’t seen in 10 years and I bumped into each other, and the first thing she said to me was ‘have you got that book published yet?’  No I didn’t.  But it keeps jumping around at the back of my head and reminding me of it’s existence, and this idea just keeps playing hopscotch in my mind of serialising the story here for a part of the book………and then selling it complete on a memory stick in a cute little crocheted pouch for anyone who wants to know what happens. 

And all you gorgeous people who are reading my blog now, might do me the favour of giving me some feedback about it………and maybe it will finally get published, even if I have to self publish it, which I suppose I am in a way really.  It occurred to me only the other week, that this blog is truly a living book.  A book that’s being written as I live it, and stories coming hot off the press of my reality. 

So here goes.  I called the book
“Balthazar and Nimue – A Love Story”



CHAPTER 1 - She Wakes

Once there was a woman who’d lived many lives, and her name was Nimue. 
She tumbled from lifestyle to definition to attitude to face, amazing herself at her flexibility.  Then one day she noticed that she never quite finished anything, or stayed anywhere long enough, or knew anyone deeply enough to actually let anything or anyone in......realised she’d danced through life as a shadow, miming the actions and staying cold as ice inside.


 Then she got pregnant from a one night stand and had herself a baby girl.  Discovered her woman power, found her witch self, and startled onto knowledge of women’s hidden past, shunted from their glory by a jealous, angry, one god.  Roared at the injustices and suppression railed against her kind.  Went through a time of near separatist lesbianism, rattled feminist theory, women’s literature, and her mother’s hidden faces.  Tried the multitudinous forms of alternative therapy and scourged many demons from her past.  New realisations began to emerge. 

She started looking.  Peeling pieces off her skin and examining what lay beneath. 
Scratched at old wounds and picked at old scars and started to dive beneath the surface of the emotional stability she’d set anchor in.  She examined anew the multitudes of one night stands and sexual encounters and serious relationships and friendships she’d set up through her life.  Realised the stories and fabrics and lies and deceptions she’d been fed.  Stepped from the front of the mirror of the reality she’d looked at all her life and saw the great worlds beyond.


She’d been spawned by denial, grown on guilt and fear, and weaned early on a diet of loneliness and self hate, managing her shackles as well as able, shrugging her baggage on her back.  She’d begun life alone, kept from social circles by her glimpses of hidden knowledge.  Knowing that somewhere, somehow, it had to be different.  It took her a while to find where to look.  She delved into her childhood and discovered some ghosts. Some hidden evil deadly ghosts.  Some give you nightmares ghosts.  Some wreak havoc and ruin in your relationships ghosts.  Some nasty, never live men ghosts.  She recognised the underworld of her fathers and brothers sexual fantasies.  And she finally remembered her earlier entanglement and childhood rape.  All the denial and suppression and energy and passion it had taken to keep these memories from her were unleashed.  She felt emotions she’d never before felt, shocked into feeling the world around her.  Stepped from the wrap she’d been held in, numb to her power and life.

 She shed her lesbian skin and entered the shadier waters of the bisexual realms.  She mixed through the silky liquid of ambivalence and suppleness, paradox and ambiguity.  The light above the murky waters she’d swum all her life was becoming stronger.  Her mind and instinct swam before her, leading her onwards and upwards, towards her own truth.


She remembered who she was underneath all the layers of skin that had kept her iced in self defeat.  She shed those skins and discovered magical facets inside her, privately polished to glorious shine by earlier invisibility, ready to glow to the world she created around her.

 She realised she’d never had a father, brother, uncle, male friend....she’d never let them in again after her childhood realisation that all men were fucked and would only feed you betrayal and lies.  She’d avoided any reminder that a part of her lay in her enemy, and a part of them in her. She’d worshipped the mother and ignored the consort.  She’d slept with her anger at night.


She whirled from her altered perception and fell into love and lust with a young Adonis, an unthreatening androgynous man with which to test out her new knowledge.  She used him as her escape from her home, the street which held such memories and ghosts, to run to the hills to shed more skins.  Not long after, she shed the young Adonis, and began afresh in a crystalline setting with her mother and daughter.  The trinity of womankind that rocked her through life waters.



CHAPTER 2 - He Searches


Once there was a man named Balthazar, who knew there was a flow somewhere, but everytime he thought he’d entered it’s waters it turned to mud and broken shells slicing his feet and crawling up his shins in sludge and murk.  Inside lay pure light of truth and whole that struggled to shine but instead got snuffed by the death and stupidity around him.  He tried to be his best, tried to give his best, tried to show his best, but when faced with people that let him be his worst and still adored him, he refused to unfurl.  He knew he could grasp the clarity of wholeness but saw no reason to reach it with such blindness around him.


He fucked people over and stole their hearts, and stomped on their entrails in defeat.  He shoved his knife of light into the innards and annals of the life around him and held his blade up despairingly, bloodied with fear and grief.  Searching always for the limit, the boundary, the quiet and calm ‘no’ to let him stop.


In the quiet times he curled inside to see his heart and the grief knee deep and warm.  His wound, his bloody sore, his gaping hole, his soft and lightly beating mass of ache.  He cried for his scars and the pain he inflicted, and knew somehwere that things could be different, but how?


He’d educated himself in his cruelty, knew that his culture of phallus worship was a relatively recent upstart, shattering the hold of the mother.  Knew that woman held the power of life that he held in death.  Knew that the customs and rituals he saw around him were mere shadows of what had been and could be.  Knew that somewhere he held the role of consort.  But when he’d first tried to share and show his learning’s he’d been disgusted at the meek obedience of the women around him.  Repulsed by their slavish devotions and ‘fuck me’ ways.  Horrified by their ignorance of power and how it worked, and their refusal to accept and wield responsibility and strength.  And even more sickened by the women who hated his kind, but struggled to become him.



So he kept to his ways, cheating on his women, drinking to oblivion, shattering love’s hope and grinding it to mush.  Forgetting small pleasantries, ignoring soft feelings, spitting in the eye of feminine wiles.  He created children to grow in the womb of the world and then left them crying in his wake.  He pushed and ground and kicked and stabbed and crushed and bruised and spat.  He created a religion of cock for his women, then fucked them into despair.



Till one day it stopped.  He could feel no longer.  In his rage at his world he’d destroyed even his own anger.  He suddenly saw with thumping clarity his own stupidity and fear.  Saw how he’d destroyed others in arrogance, and not realised till now how they reflected him.  Understood that even in his seeming rebellion against the way things were and could or should be, he’d actually played a part he didn’t choose.  He’d pillaged and raped his own life and become a puppet for those he despised.  And he’d let his own despair fashion him a tool of hate and given his life to it.  He was an empty shell.  The passion he could have moulded and fed and grown had been used up in death, with hooded skulls and blood.



A quiet, wry, deep voice somewhere at the back of his mind started whispering over the gulf.  Told him he was at a crossroad.  He could fill his emptiness with himself and green shoots of growth, or fill it anew with the death and gore he knew so well.  He could bed his anger or let it translate itself into passion and direction.  The choice was his......



Celtic knot picture from   http://www.spelwerx.com/celticknots.html




13 comments:

  1. I dont want to be the first to comment, feel like hiding behind a few well put complements-... at no time did I feel like taking sides( I usually like to)- him or her, as essentially they are one- that is clear- I wonder if it will turn from 'once their was' to a style of writing that makes you think it is all happening now... I relate to the now, raw, unhidden- Its great- simply genius ... and you know it!

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  2. You're the ONLY one to comment!! :) And I really like what you have to say. And I hope you like the rest of it as much....

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  3. I want to keep reading this story that flows like potent poetry....more, more..thank you

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  4. Thank you, Hellena, I read here with dictionnary by my side and tears in my eyes and I am deeply touched.

    Susanne

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    1. Susanne....you rock....thank you so much for your comments!! They're the wind beneath my wings at the moment:) I swear I was Tinkerbell in a past life....keep clapping!!

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  5. I am enjoying this....as I am sure are others....don't let lack of comments fool you....sometimes I don't comment because there are no words...just feelings xxx Sometimes my 'meh' artwork gets loads of adoring comments, and my best work hardly any......people are strange...I wanna copy of the book to hold, and read, and paint imagery from xxx

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    1. I'd so love to see the kind of images you could paint from this!! You're a darling:) And it's funny the things people like.....my most dashed off art work was the only one that sold at Red Poles!!

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  6. Im just starting your story and cannot wait to read it all. I might need a copy.

    Nicole (www.onedayatatimenicole.blogspot.com)

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    1. I'm quite ridiculously chuffed at this!! That you like what I've written....cause you've become a bit of a hero of mine, what with all those babies and how beautifully you seem to do it, and how GORGEOUS you all are. I really like that you like this:) Stay tuned, more is on the way.....

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  7. I would love to see this in a beautiful book, it seems the sort of story you want to hold and keep. Thank you for your creations Hellena xx

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    1. I would so so so so so love to see my book as a real book!! To have and hold in my hands....almost sounds like a marriage vow! I always imagined it with beautiful artworks between each chapter....maybe one day my dream will come true:)

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  8. Well I was taking my ball home because no-one was playing how I wanted them to.....as in giving me any feedback....but then I got some so all's well now!! The story will live on...

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